... when you have no idea what you want to do. So we've all been in a moment of overwhelm (or just general negativity) where we have no clue what to do with ourselves, and a lot of options. Some of which are scary, or overdue on a to do list, or what have you. So when you are overwhelmed with your choices, and don't even know where to start, I made a guide! The first step is to decide how you want to feel. Do you want to feel calm? Excited? Productive? This sets the tone for

I'm the worst at being stressed ok- I become literally the worst version of myself. I can't help it. I'll always be envious of the people who thrive under pressure, but I understand that my tolerance for it is super low. So I've developed some tactics to keep me from reaching my stress threshold, check them out! First, I check to see if what I'm stressing about affects my values and priorities. There are so many times that I was panicking over something that didn't even matt

Happy March y’all!! And of course, with March, comes St. Patrick’s day, and with St. Patrick’s day, we talk about luck. So let’s talk about luck ☘️ For the past few months, Lucky Girl Syndrome has been a hot topic on social media, and when creators are talking about it, they often mention that a healthy dose of delulu was the selulu (if you are chronically offline, delusion is the solution). What is actually happening, however, is that in pretending that they are happier and

Look, everyone I have spoken to (and I bartend- I talk to a lot of people) all agree that this year so far is not it. Shit’s expensive, work sucks, everyone’s getting laid off, and at the end of the day the constant influx of news and stress leaves you so tired all you can do is order takeout and rot to Vampire Diaries. Again. (but who doesn't love 2010s Ian Somerhalder?? No? Just me? Ok.) I’m determined to make this year go better than it has so far. As far as I am concerned

Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and if this one just wasn’t for you, let’s talk about it: So Valentine’s Day can suck for a variety of reasons; you could be feeling acutely single, you could be disappointed by something your partner did, you could be comparing everything you did to what someone else did… the list goes on. All of these feelings are valid, and I am not about to tell you “chin up buttercup there’s someone out there!” or “just be happy with what you h

Welcome to the last and hardest part of this exercise: what are you running from and why are you running from it? It doesn't take a genius to know why this might suck to think about. But, alas, think about it we must. Because if you're running from it, it has power over your mental space. We're taking your mental space back. This will not be like that time in Stranger Things when Will faced the mindflayer and told it to "Go AWAY" and it just took over his brain, I promise. I

For this penultimate prompt in understanding the basics of you, we're discussing needs and wants. Now, when I say needs, I am not talking about water or leafy greens (but you should participate in both of these things often). I am talking about what you need to feel neutral and safe and cared for. For example, for my brain to progress past survival mode, I need to my dogs to have gone outside, my hair to not be oily, and my bed needs to be made. I don't make the rules, this i

Knowing what you do and don't like will help you try new things and see why some things aren't working.

This is why everything feels so incredibly difficult.